• the past is past, coaching versus therapy, cbt, cognitive behavioural therapy, the effect of memories, can memories be harmful, thoughts and feelings influence behaviour, facing the challenge of painful memories, our response to painful memories, beliefs, self-worth, problem solving

    The past is past – when do memories become harmful

    Think back, for a moment, on a memory that still stirs up sadness, grief or anger within you. For a moment, revisit the memory, and notice the emotions that you feel. Consider how the event is in the past, but the emotions and feelings that you are experiencing are in the present moment! They are not past emotions. They are affecting you right now. So, when we hold onto a memory, we don’t simply hold onto how the experience affected us then, but we also hold onto how that memory interacts with us in the present moment. We interpret situations, and react to them, not only in light to what…