Introducing – THE COACHING DEEP DIVE
DiscoverYourPathU is highly invested in the authenticity of our community, students, instructors, and even the Board of Directors. We believe not only in encouraging authenticity, but also in creating a community and culture in which authenticity flourishes as an effect of our programs, classes and the platform itself. As such, we highly value offerings which foster originality, empowerment and individuality.
What is the Coaching Deep Dive?
The Coaching Deep Dive is a family of proprietary offerings created by the Chief Operating Officer & Vice-President of the Board of Directors, Sharon Frochen, in concert with the community itself. Sharon is passionate about the development of a community which has a hand in creating the experiential and classroom learning offerings which it consumes. She deeply believes that it gives each practitioner, student, instructor, coach and member the opportunity to fully embody their own unique style and purpose.
In Western culture, while we rely almost exclusively on the language itself as our means of communication, there are two other coinciding forms of communication going on in every face-to-face conversation, whether they are in-person or online. NLP teaches us that only 7% of language is the spoken word, while body language accounts for 55% and the remaining 38% consists of how the words are spoken.
Recognizing Body Language is Critical for Life Coaches, in a Coaching Scenario
Body language could be described as non-verbal communication and consists of many things including facial expressions, body movement/posture, gestures, eye contact and space. For instance, when someone leans in (space), they are indicating interest, while moving away tends to show their desire to remove themselves from the speaker and/or the subject. Eye contact, or lack thereof, can indicate whether or not the person to whom you’re speaking is comfortable. Body movements and/or posture, such as leaning back and crossing the arms over the chest, can indicate being closed off. Facial expressions (and micro-expressions) such a the furrowing of the brow can indicate dislike or confusion. Our bodies are speaking a language all their own.
Hearing, and Listening to the Spoken Word
Underlying the spoken word is how they are spoken. This includes intensity, intonation, pitch, pace, and syntax. Intensity is how loudly the words are spoken. Intonation is the fluctuation of volume to create emphasis on certain words or phrases. Pitch is the variation from highness to lowness of tone. Pace is how quickly or how slowly the words are spoken. Syntax is the arrangement of words and phrases in speech.
Because compassionate care professionals use conversation as their primary mode of engaging their clients, Sharon has created a learning opportunity that allows students to experience conversation in a completely unique way, using all three modes of communication contained within conversation. Interviews between the instructor and a volunteer from the community, using an intense set of test questions which are randomly selected and designed to elicit specific emotional responses, are recorded and played back to give students the opportunity to dissect conversation, individually and collectively.
The Coaching Deep Dive Learning Lab
The foundation of these offerings is the Coaching Deep Dive Learning Lab (offered twice a week on Wednesdays afternoons [Europe] and Friday mornings [Americas], to paying members of the platform, free of charge) which is a classroom experience and discussion group. This is a 3-week set of sessions that rotates continuously using a different community volunteer every three weeks. A pre-recorded interview as described above, is used.
In the first week, only the video is used, without audio. After each question and response, playback is paused for a communal discussion on how the client is communicating with their body language, without the classroom knowing what questions were being asked. Because the students have no idea, other than body language, what emotion is present, or what the topic of conversation is, this is the most difficult of the 3 sessions, but also the most effective at building the students’ intuition, as well as focus.
In the second week, only the audio is used, without the video. Like the first week, after each question and response, playback is paused for a communal discussion on how the client is communicating with both the spoken word and how the word is spoken. While the students now know what questions were asked, they are still without the full experience of sight and sound which causes a deep immersion into intentional and unintentional use of language.
In the third week, both video and audio are played, and after each question and response, playback is paused for a communal discussion not only on how the client is communicating in all three forms, but also on how the presence of both senses (vision/video and audio/hearing) differs from the first two weeks and what realizations these differences bring to light. The purpose of all of these sessions is to make the students more aware of how to understand their clients, even if the clients don’t fully know how to communicate their issues/concerns. This process is invaluable in creating practitioners who are able to read other people at a profoundly deep level.
The Coaching Deep Dive Practice Pods
Another component of these offerings is the Coaching Deep Dive Practice Pods (offered once a week on Tuesdays in the late morning [Europe] and in the early evening [Americas]). In these practice pods, students watch a live mini coaching session between the instructor and a volunteer from the group. After the session, the group then stays together to use the skills they have acquired in the learning labs to dissect the deeper levels of that life coaching demonstration with both the instructor and client available for feedback on their dissection.
Students can also discuss any ways in which they might have directed the session differently based upon their reading of the client. This not only gives the students the place in which to try their skills out, but also the chance to have their reading of the session either validated or invalidated by the participants.
Ongoing Discussion from Sessions with Real Clients
The final component of these offerings are weekly groups where students have the opportunity to discuss how their newfound skills are unfolding in their private sessions with their own clients (offered on Monday mornings [Europe] and Thursday afternoons [Americas]). This gives members of the platform the ability to express what they are experiencing, get feedback and advice from multiple points of view, and continue the integrating process of their new skills.
Together, this family of proprietary DiscoverYourPathU offerings is creating an entirely new way of helping practitioners to understand their clients and their own intuition, as well as to identify the fact that the most important thing that they bring into a session is their own authenticity, presence and style.